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Cant Get A Girlfriend: So a woman's idea of being friends is A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is Hey listen to all my problems and keep me niambi ers Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there's a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have- you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subject s but rarely involves actually on about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can't get emotional support unless you're drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women's friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can't lean on her when you're weak, she's not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That's what a romantic partner does. But women think that's what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support they don't die when widowed at nearly the rate that wid- owers die and they don't suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don't put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn't manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can't reach out to male friends for basic friendship I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It's emotional, it's important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn't have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can't share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can't get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the worlid owes them the love of a woman, like it's a commodity... because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can't share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply miS The only way to fix this is to teach boys it's okay to love your friends. It's okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It's okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved so men, this one's on you. Women can't fix this for you; you don't listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, "What? You don't want to be my friend?" I'll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. fall-out-man Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it's called Friend vs Friendzone
Cant Get A Girlfriend: So a woman's idea of being friends is
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 niambi
 ers
 Oh my God this actually explains so much.
 So there's a known thing in the study of
 human psychology/sociology/what-have-
 you where men are known to, on average, rely
 entirely on their female romantic partner for
 emotional support. Bonding with other men
 is done at a more superficial level involving
 fun group activities and conversations about
 general subject
 s but rarely involves actually
 on
 about emotional problems. Men use alcohol
 to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to
 expose themselves emotionally to other men,
 but if you can't get emotional support unless
 you're drunk, you have a problem.
 So men need to have a woman in their lives to
 have anyone they can share their emotional
 needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since
 women are not socialized to fear sharing
 these things, women's friendships with other
 women are heavily based on emotional
 support. If you can't lean on her when you're
 weak, she's not your friend. To women, what
 friendship is is someone who listens to all
 your problems and keeps you company.
 So this disconnect men are suffering from
 is that they think that only a person who is
 having sex with you will share their emotions
 and expect support. That's what a romantic
 partner does. But women think that's what a
 friend does. So women do it for their romantic
 partners and their friends and expect a male
 friend to do it for them the same as a female
 friend would. This fools the male friend into
 thinking there must be something romantic
 there when there is not.
 This here is an example of patriarchy hurting
 everyone. Women have a much healthier
 approach to emotional support they don't
 die when widowed at nearly the rate that wid-
 owers die and they don't suffer emotionally
 from divorce nearly as much even though
 they suffer much more financially, and this is
 because women don't put all their emotional
 needs on one person. Women have a support
 network of other women. But men are trained
 to never share their emotions except with their
 wife or girlfriend, because that isn't manly. So
 when she dies or leaves them, they have no
 one to turn to to help with the grief, causing
 higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism
 and general awfulness upon losing a romantic
 partner
 So men suffer terribly from being trained in
 this way. But women suffer in that they can't
 reach out to male friends for basic friendship
 I am not sure any man can comprehend how
 heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you
 thought was your friend was really just trying
 to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It's
 emotional, it's important to us. We lean on our
 friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly
 seething with resentment when you were
 opening up to him and sharing your problems
 because he felt like he shouldn't have to do
 that kind of emotional work for anyone not
 having sex with him, and he felt used by
 you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact
 that men can't share emotional needs with
 other men means that lots of men who can't
 get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible
 misogynistic people who think the worlid
 owes them the love of a woman, like it's a
 commodity... because no one will die without
 sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die
 or suffer deep emotional trauma from having
 no one they can lean on emotionally. And men
 who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and
 have been trained to channel their personal
 trauma into rage because they can't share it,
 become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply
 miS
 The only way to fix this is to teach boys it's
 okay to love your friends. It's okay to share
 your needs and your problems with your
 friends. It's okay to lean on your friends, to
 hug your friends, to be weak with your friends.
 Only if this is okay for boys to do with their
 male friends can this problem be resolved
 so men, this one's on you. Women can't fix this
 for you; you don't listen to us about matters of
 what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit
 and teach your brothers and sons and friends
 that this is okay, or everyone suffers.
 The next time a guy says, "What? You
 don't want to be my friend?" I'll text him this
 and then ask if he really wants to be friends or
 just have another potential girlfriend.
 fall-out-man
 Im a communication student and
 can confirm the above is absolutely
 100% accurate and it's called
Friend vs Friendzone

Friend vs Friendzone