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    Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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                Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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5 Ways to Deal with an Inferiority Complex
5 Habits of Highly Successful People
5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize
7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized
7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset
5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want
7 Ways You Can Start Over
8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk
Make Yourself Happy
8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health
7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser
10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life
10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People
7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts
5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life
5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do
10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval
10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience
Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up
6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex
5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths
Healing from Repressed Anger
How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness
11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts
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    Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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5 Habits of Highly Successful People
5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize
7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized
7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset
5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want
7 Ways You Can Start Over
8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk
Make Yourself Happy
8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health
7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser
10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life
10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People
7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts
5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life
5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do
10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval
10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience
Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up
6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex
5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths
Healing from Repressed Anger
How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness
11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts
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7 Signs You are Emotionally Healthy
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                Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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5 Ways to Achieve Your Dreams
5 Ways to Deal with an Inferiority Complex
5 Habits of Highly Successful People
5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize
7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized
7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset
5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want
7 Ways You Can Start Over
8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk
Make Yourself Happy
8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health
7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser
10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life
10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People
7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts
5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life
5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do
10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval
10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience
Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up
6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex
5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths
Healing from Repressed Anger
How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness
11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts
If you like to read topics about Self-Love, visit our website psych2go.net
Ψ Follow @psych2go​ for more Ψ

Update: Love our articles? We have listed down more here: 
6 Ways To Cope With Suicidal Thoughts
5 Ways You’re Self Harming Before You Pick Up the Razor.
Want To Be Happy? Implement Flow Activities
7 Signs You are Emotionally Healthy
5 Ways to Know if You are Emotionally Mature
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    Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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5 Ways to Achieve Your Dreams
5 Ways to Deal with an Inferiority Complex
5 Habits of Highly Successful People
5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize
7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized
7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset
5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want
7 Ways You Can Start Over
8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk
Make Yourself Happy
8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health
7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser
10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life
10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People
7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts
5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life
5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do
10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval
10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience
Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up
6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex
5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths
Healing from Repressed Anger
How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness
11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts
If you like to read topics about Self-Love, visit our website psych2go.net
Ψ Follow @psych2go​ for more Ψ

    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                Bad, Complex, and Friends: 12 STEPS FOR SELF-CARE
 1. If it feels wrong, don't do it
 2. Say exactly what you mean
 3. Don't be a people pleaser
 4. Trust your instincts
 5. Never speak bad about yourself
 6. Never give up on your dreams
 7. Don't be afraid to say no
 8. Don't be afraid to say yes
 9. Be kind to yourself
 10. Let go of what you can't control
 11. Stay away from drama and negativity
 12. LOVE
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5 Ways to Achieve Your Dreams
5 Ways to Deal with an Inferiority Complex
5 Habits of Highly Successful People
5 Effective Ways You Can Self-Actualize
7 Signs You May Be Self-Actualized
7 Habits to Nurture a Positive Mindset
5 Things to Give Up to Live the Life You Want
7 Ways You Can Start Over
8 Ways to Counteract Negative Self-Talk
Make Yourself Happy
8 Ways to Take Care of Your Mental Health
7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
7 Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser
10 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person in Your Life
10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People
7 Habits of Highly Successful Introverts
5 Ways Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life
5 Ways to Stop Apologizing for Everything that You Do
10 Steps for Overcoming the Need for Approval
10 Ways to Build Your Emotional Resilience
Love Yourself: Recognizing When It’s Time to Give Up
6 Ways to Deal with Inferiority Complex
5 Helpful Self Care Tips for Empaths
Healing from Repressed Anger
How Channeling Your Pain Leads to Happiness
11 Tips To Cope With Negative Thoughts
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    Advice, Being Alone, and Amazon: Positive feedback makes me
 write more. And writing more
 makes me a better writer. I've
 received a fair amount of
 negative comments, and
 EVERY one of them has
 simply made me give up
 writing for a while. Sometimes
 months
 Anonymous asked: Honestly I
 appreclate what you've been saying
 about unsolicited comments an fic b/c
 when I was small & first started
 writing fic - I didn't speak English
 very well my 1st language ls
 Hawaiian Pidgin which uses some
 English words but they're spelled
 VERY differently & the grammar is
 VERY different & anyways I was lke a
 tiny child getting roasted by grown
 adults In the comments of my fic for
 spellingigrammar & it wasn't helpful
 It just made me an Insecure writer.I
 dan't write fic anymore
 i have literally never had good
 I once had a "concritter" on
 ff.net fail to understand the
 difference between
 Amazon reviews and fanfic
 reviews/comments. She
 used the existence of the
 former to justify being
 harsh in the latter. And l
 could not get her to
 comprehend that Amazon
 reviews are not the same
 thing as fanfic reviews
 #stop hurting us for your own personal ego trip
 if you've ever wondered
 why i stopped writing, it's
 because of exactly this. i
 was in a highly emotionally
 fragile place, writing was
 one of my very few healthy
 cathartic outlets, and one
 person too many decided
 to be 'helpful in the
 comments
 #but the one time I got a lot of negative feedback on something I posted
 #it stuck #it hurt #it ruined my entire day
 Hand bled into the rest of my week
 #now this was multiple people writing paragraph on how I was wrong and
 #something that hits home this week
 an have
 #1 dont care if they think my writing sucks
 #but they didnt need to share it
 lose to home
 ause all theyve done is mad
 and made sure ill never touch tha
 delete
 arac
 or fear of the
 se
 people coming after me
 #ionly got a couple of negative reviews but i thought about them long
 after l should have
 yeah. It didn't drive me out of the Sterek fandom. But it could have, very easily
 Ten years previous it almost certainly would have, because belleve me, before
 I was on anxlety medication, that sort of comment would have left me in a
 spiral for weeks.
 #see actually this is why I'm not writing currently
 and like that really made me deflate and not wanna work on the next fic
 #idk #dumb petty problems #I'm still a little sad about it
 #I'll admit that I ta
 te harshly
 -even if it's worded well
 #1 was almost put off writing fic forever when the forst fic i ever posted got
 scathingly-picked apart
 and l was
 he
 #l thought I was a terrible writer and never wanted to post fic again
 #really tho
 #i didn't write more tsyl for months bc of one horrible review

 've gotten very tired of comments
 #tired and leery
 eaction now is more
 on't wan
 #just
 #sigh
 -don't get me wrong!
 #1
 leay
 hell alone
 #it's not fun at all
 like 98% of why I'm on a03 mainly now
 ere so many lovely people on fnet
 cause there were
 who seem
 in
 something because i enjoy writing
 #like #what #why
 #all of this -particularly the constructive criticism section
 #don't be a dick -fanfic problems
 #and things like that are why I barely write for that ship now
 very important
 #(and a huge reason i can't bring myself to keep writing a story I'm very
 #-because someone wrote a nasty comment on a couple of chapters and
 ican't get past that)
 #all of my fics have been beta read by 2-3 ppl
 on't want any unsolicited opinions
 ove
 #as much as i wrote this fic with my whole soul
 #if I'm happy with it then it doesnt matter
 -I don't care/
 #actual criticism is har
 arranted its impossible to just appreciate it
 and being a beta
 fjust throwing in a sentence about how you didnt like one thing or one
 fact is wrong isnt actually helping most of the time
 #and forgive my arrogant ass but unless I specifically asked for your
 negative critique
 m not gonna trust what you say anyway
 always despis
 #1
 en
 ad to pass our papers
 around the class for people to metaphorically rip apart
 #agreed #iam the same
 #if I dont ask for critique then dont do it pls even if you are being good
 mannered
 #if I want critiques i will ask someone spe
 #if I'm looki
 ing for constructive feedback
 # why are you telling me about a perceived plot hole in a 104k word fic
 #pst it wasnt a plot hole I did th
 npurpose

 cknowledge given that we've gotter
 having free fic
 #some don't want to improve! #maybe in a broad sense yes
 #if I knit a blanket and give it as a gift
 none of these autho
 you improvement
 #1 don't want the only thing out of the recipien
 !
 #that's just shitty
 you were given a gift
 ay someo
 tiny comment alon
 in
 it wasn't that bad actually
 othered m
 #even if they specifically told me that they liked it
 #it took an 11 friend's comment about it for me to let it go and be at peace
 #they knew enoug
 different culture
 #someone might get 99 praises
 flame) that stays with them
 #1 have a pretty good ego about my writing
 eta readers sometimes
 an
 en
 ис
 #there's plenty of stuff i wouldn't share online simply because the criticism
 ould hu
 on
 away from my passion
 #this #this so much #i accept criticism from very few people
 #because they know how to tell it to me
 #even if sometimes it does sting
 #1 trust these people to know what is missing/lacking/bad about my writing
 ince i have asked for it
 ont wa
 m when i finally post my stories
 #1 just wanna know if people have lik
 #1 don't care #clearly it wasn't written for you
 #the improvemen
 one reason only #because I've kept writing- and reading)
 #I've honed my skilled by myself
 ed them #ifn
 ot
 #don't tell me
 ar
 een made for
 ou can say something nice about thi
 for a friend and spent years of my life on
 for you can shut up
 i feel like these are the pe
 writing workshop
 #they need to grow the fuck up
 are forever stuck in their creat
 #and get out of our comment sections

 #well i am glad someone thinks this way!
 #1 always feel bad for wanting po
 sitive feedback
 #1 don't mind people asking me questions
 #and I don't always mind comments about how i've improved
 #but god it pisses me off when you point out typoes
 y own editing bc i don't always use a beta
 -and that's it
 #fin
 e??
 #I'm doing this for free fuck off
 ffanfiction #i get that people want to be helpful
 Abut you're supposed to ask if your help is needed
 for wait for your help to be requested
 hank you
 #im so shy abot my writing and then i got a comment that started hmmm
 dove into all the things they didnt like and thought ishpuld
 an
 change
 Hand genuinely i wasnt sure theyd even read it because this stuff was so
 backward
 ho
 did it make me feel shit
 #It's true
 #1ike if you wanna give it to me then ask and I'll be okay probably
 but someone else might not be
 #and goddamn it's for fun
 #THANKYOU #slow clap
 e number of time
 pent all day obsessing over
 mean little
 #mood #im dealing with this rn and it's pissing me off
 Hunless you're someone I Actually Know #then fuck off
 in
 # agree so much with this #and I get shit over it occasionally
 #but honestly #I'm not a published author #this isnt my job
 it's just a bit of fun #and I am not about that negativity
 #let me play in peace
 #some people think their opinion or correction is SO
 to be said
 great that it just HAS
 as i
 #as if they are fucking experts on antic
 #1 don't care if you are an editor in real life #if you aren't my beta
 #keep your mouth shut on concrit #it's simple #really
 much #people can tell me all they want about my spelling errors
 at opinion is somehow
 (because there's always one or two) #and i-don't care
 #im not tDing it #especially not spending hours writing
 #yes this
 #i'm not a native speaker and I already know i make mistakes
 #so give us a break
 1 still posted the thing for you
 #fanfiction
 #I'm honestly probably never going to write fanfic ever again
 #you'll never catch me writing TW fic ever again
 #I've learned my lesson

 I have peopleI take my
 work to for critique. Serious
 critique. I want that
 criticism, and to be better. If
 l post something and don't
 say it's in some level of a
 finished form or hey let me
 know what you think,
 probably best to assume
 I'm not looking for your red
 pen insight in my inbox.
 literally like, I got my first
 comment on a fic a while
 back that wasn't just
 keysmashing or
 compliments or wtv, it was
 literally just advice, but it hit
 me like a sack of bricks to
 the face and lost the will to
 continue the fic I was
 working on when I read that
 comment my mood
 plummeted off a cliff in the
 span of a couple
 sentences.
 This is pretty Rich
 actually, because l have
 had my life destroyed by
 online Critics on stories I
 just posted for fun
 Thank you, Kedreeva. This
 is also how I feel when my
 partner tries to give me
 concrit on my Overwatch
 game play. I didn't ask you
 for concrit. Please leave
 me alone. You're ruining my
 fun thing by turning it into
 homework.
 Unsolicited concrit is
 entitled wank
 #honestly keep it to your damn selves
 # constructive criticism is a huge part of why I don't fucking write anymore
 ck off with that shit
 #I've seen too many writers give up
 tAnd stop writing
 few a
 ss holes who thought they needed to tell these
 people that they didn't like their story for some reason
 #1m sometimes still thinking about that one Concrit comment I got years
 ago
 #important #fanfiction #writing #criticism
 #that's one of the reasons I never write sterek again
 #whereas with my writing? Dont -please
 #even if y
 #1m going to remember the one inconsequential bad thing
 #AT MOST you can point out like a spelling error or two
 #but honestly don't bother if I missed them on the proof then I probably
 don't care enough to edit it again
 ou leave the nicest comme
 nt otherwis
 NOW
 #as someone who writes
 #i hate hate hate concrit on works that are posted unless I've specifically asked for
 more
 bad that im s
 ometimes way too much of a wimp when it comes to
 concrit
 #Tbh I'm very wary of criticism
 #I've had most people do it in a way that negatively affected the way I see
 my work
 #Asking first is a wonderful way to go about it!
kedreeva:

When I say “writers don’t want your unsolicited criticism” and “leaving unsolicited criticism on fanfiction hurts writers” THIS is what I mean.
This isn’t even all of them, this is just from a FEW posts on the subject. Read through these, and then look me in the eyes and say you’re ~helping writers~ by leaving that criticizing comment on someone’s fic when they didn’t ask you to.
You’re hurting or, at best, annoying us. You’re hurting fandom.


You’re not helping us.

    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                Advice, Being Alone, and Amazon: Positive feedback makes me
 write more. And writing more
 makes me a better writer. I've
 received a fair amount of
 negative comments, and
 EVERY one of them has
 simply made me give up
 writing for a while. Sometimes
 months
 Anonymous asked: Honestly I
 appreclate what you've been saying
 about unsolicited comments an fic b/c
 when I was small & first started
 writing fic - I didn't speak English
 very well my 1st language ls
 Hawaiian Pidgin which uses some
 English words but they're spelled
 VERY differently & the grammar is
 VERY different & anyways I was lke a
 tiny child getting roasted by grown
 adults In the comments of my fic for
 spellingigrammar & it wasn't helpful
 It just made me an Insecure writer.I
 dan't write fic anymore
 i have literally never had good
 I once had a "concritter" on
 ff.net fail to understand the
 difference between
 Amazon reviews and fanfic
 reviews/comments. She
 used the existence of the
 former to justify being
 harsh in the latter. And l
 could not get her to
 comprehend that Amazon
 reviews are not the same
 thing as fanfic reviews
 #stop hurting us for your own personal ego trip
 if you've ever wondered
 why i stopped writing, it's
 because of exactly this. i
 was in a highly emotionally
 fragile place, writing was
 one of my very few healthy
 cathartic outlets, and one
 person too many decided
 to be 'helpful in the
 comments
 #but the one time I got a lot of negative feedback on something I posted
 #it stuck #it hurt #it ruined my entire day
 Hand bled into the rest of my week
 #now this was multiple people writing paragraph on how I was wrong and
 #something that hits home this week
 an have
 #1 dont care if they think my writing sucks
 #but they didnt need to share it
 lose to home
 ause all theyve done is mad
 and made sure ill never touch tha
 delete
 arac
 or fear of the
 se
 people coming after me
 #ionly got a couple of negative reviews but i thought about them long
 after l should have
 yeah. It didn't drive me out of the Sterek fandom. But it could have, very easily
 Ten years previous it almost certainly would have, because belleve me, before
 I was on anxlety medication, that sort of comment would have left me in a
 spiral for weeks.
 #see actually this is why I'm not writing currently
 and like that really made me deflate and not wanna work on the next fic
 #idk #dumb petty problems #I'm still a little sad about it
 #I'll admit that I ta
 te harshly
 -even if it's worded well
 #1 was almost put off writing fic forever when the forst fic i ever posted got
 scathingly-picked apart
 and l was
 he
 #l thought I was a terrible writer and never wanted to post fic again
 #really tho
 #i didn't write more tsyl for months bc of one horrible review

 've gotten very tired of comments
 #tired and leery
 eaction now is more
 on't wan
 #just
 #sigh
 -don't get me wrong!
 #1
 leay
 hell alone
 #it's not fun at all
 like 98% of why I'm on a03 mainly now
 ere so many lovely people on fnet
 cause there were
 who seem
 in
 something because i enjoy writing
 #like #what #why
 #all of this -particularly the constructive criticism section
 #don't be a dick -fanfic problems
 #and things like that are why I barely write for that ship now
 very important
 #(and a huge reason i can't bring myself to keep writing a story I'm very
 #-because someone wrote a nasty comment on a couple of chapters and
 ican't get past that)
 #all of my fics have been beta read by 2-3 ppl
 on't want any unsolicited opinions
 ove
 #as much as i wrote this fic with my whole soul
 #if I'm happy with it then it doesnt matter
 -I don't care/
 #actual criticism is har
 arranted its impossible to just appreciate it
 and being a beta
 fjust throwing in a sentence about how you didnt like one thing or one
 fact is wrong isnt actually helping most of the time
 #and forgive my arrogant ass but unless I specifically asked for your
 negative critique
 m not gonna trust what you say anyway
 always despis
 #1
 en
 ad to pass our papers
 around the class for people to metaphorically rip apart
 #agreed #iam the same
 #if I dont ask for critique then dont do it pls even if you are being good
 mannered
 #if I want critiques i will ask someone spe
 #if I'm looki
 ing for constructive feedback
 # why are you telling me about a perceived plot hole in a 104k word fic
 #pst it wasnt a plot hole I did th
 npurpose

 cknowledge given that we've gotter
 having free fic
 #some don't want to improve! #maybe in a broad sense yes
 #if I knit a blanket and give it as a gift
 none of these autho
 you improvement
 #1 don't want the only thing out of the recipien
 !
 #that's just shitty
 you were given a gift
 ay someo
 tiny comment alon
 in
 it wasn't that bad actually
 othered m
 #even if they specifically told me that they liked it
 #it took an 11 friend's comment about it for me to let it go and be at peace
 #they knew enoug
 different culture
 #someone might get 99 praises
 flame) that stays with them
 #1 have a pretty good ego about my writing
 eta readers sometimes
 an
 en
 ис
 #there's plenty of stuff i wouldn't share online simply because the criticism
 ould hu
 on
 away from my passion
 #this #this so much #i accept criticism from very few people
 #because they know how to tell it to me
 #even if sometimes it does sting
 #1 trust these people to know what is missing/lacking/bad about my writing
 ince i have asked for it
 ont wa
 m when i finally post my stories
 #1 just wanna know if people have lik
 #1 don't care #clearly it wasn't written for you
 #the improvemen
 one reason only #because I've kept writing- and reading)
 #I've honed my skilled by myself
 ed them #ifn
 ot
 #don't tell me
 ar
 een made for
 ou can say something nice about thi
 for a friend and spent years of my life on
 for you can shut up
 i feel like these are the pe
 writing workshop
 #they need to grow the fuck up
 are forever stuck in their creat
 #and get out of our comment sections

 #well i am glad someone thinks this way!
 #1 always feel bad for wanting po
 sitive feedback
 #1 don't mind people asking me questions
 #and I don't always mind comments about how i've improved
 #but god it pisses me off when you point out typoes
 y own editing bc i don't always use a beta
 -and that's it
 #fin
 e??
 #I'm doing this for free fuck off
 ffanfiction #i get that people want to be helpful
 Abut you're supposed to ask if your help is needed
 for wait for your help to be requested
 hank you
 #im so shy abot my writing and then i got a comment that started hmmm
 dove into all the things they didnt like and thought ishpuld
 an
 change
 Hand genuinely i wasnt sure theyd even read it because this stuff was so
 backward
 ho
 did it make me feel shit
 #It's true
 #1ike if you wanna give it to me then ask and I'll be okay probably
 but someone else might not be
 #and goddamn it's for fun
 #THANKYOU #slow clap
 e number of time
 pent all day obsessing over
 mean little
 #mood #im dealing with this rn and it's pissing me off
 Hunless you're someone I Actually Know #then fuck off
 in
 # agree so much with this #and I get shit over it occasionally
 #but honestly #I'm not a published author #this isnt my job
 it's just a bit of fun #and I am not about that negativity
 #let me play in peace
 #some people think their opinion or correction is SO
 to be said
 great that it just HAS
 as i
 #as if they are fucking experts on antic
 #1 don't care if you are an editor in real life #if you aren't my beta
 #keep your mouth shut on concrit #it's simple #really
 much #people can tell me all they want about my spelling errors
 at opinion is somehow
 (because there's always one or two) #and i-don't care
 #im not tDing it #especially not spending hours writing
 #yes this
 #i'm not a native speaker and I already know i make mistakes
 #so give us a break
 1 still posted the thing for you
 #fanfiction
 #I'm honestly probably never going to write fanfic ever again
 #you'll never catch me writing TW fic ever again
 #I've learned my lesson

 I have peopleI take my
 work to for critique. Serious
 critique. I want that
 criticism, and to be better. If
 l post something and don't
 say it's in some level of a
 finished form or hey let me
 know what you think,
 probably best to assume
 I'm not looking for your red
 pen insight in my inbox.
 literally like, I got my first
 comment on a fic a while
 back that wasn't just
 keysmashing or
 compliments or wtv, it was
 literally just advice, but it hit
 me like a sack of bricks to
 the face and lost the will to
 continue the fic I was
 working on when I read that
 comment my mood
 plummeted off a cliff in the
 span of a couple
 sentences.
 This is pretty Rich
 actually, because l have
 had my life destroyed by
 online Critics on stories I
 just posted for fun
 Thank you, Kedreeva. This
 is also how I feel when my
 partner tries to give me
 concrit on my Overwatch
 game play. I didn't ask you
 for concrit. Please leave
 me alone. You're ruining my
 fun thing by turning it into
 homework.
 Unsolicited concrit is
 entitled wank
 #honestly keep it to your damn selves
 # constructive criticism is a huge part of why I don't fucking write anymore
 ck off with that shit
 #I've seen too many writers give up
 tAnd stop writing
 few a
 ss holes who thought they needed to tell these
 people that they didn't like their story for some reason
 #1m sometimes still thinking about that one Concrit comment I got years
 ago
 #important #fanfiction #writing #criticism
 #that's one of the reasons I never write sterek again
 #whereas with my writing? Dont -please
 #even if y
 #1m going to remember the one inconsequential bad thing
 #AT MOST you can point out like a spelling error or two
 #but honestly don't bother if I missed them on the proof then I probably
 don't care enough to edit it again
 ou leave the nicest comme
 nt otherwis
 NOW
 #as someone who writes
 #i hate hate hate concrit on works that are posted unless I've specifically asked for
 more
 bad that im s
 ometimes way too much of a wimp when it comes to
 concrit
 #Tbh I'm very wary of criticism
 #I've had most people do it in a way that negatively affected the way I see
 my work
 #Asking first is a wonderful way to go about it!
kedreeva:

When I say “writers don’t want your unsolicited criticism” and “leaving unsolicited criticism on fanfiction hurts writers” THIS is what I mean.
This isn’t even all of them, this is just from a FEW posts on the subject. Read through these, and then look me in the eyes and say you’re ~helping writers~ by leaving that criticizing comment on someone’s fic when they didn’t ask you to.
You’re hurting or, at best, annoying us. You’re hurting fandom.


You’re not helping us.

                
            

            
            
kedreeva:

When I say “writers don’t want your unsolicited criticism” and “leaving unsolicited criticism on fanfiction hurts writers” THIS i...