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Bad, Bill Cosby, and Donald Trump: Wagatwe Sara Wanjuki 3 hrs I won't say "Me, too." Partially because most of you know that' already. But mostly because we shouldn't have to "out" ourselves as survivors Because men have *always* seen the gendered violence happening around them (and/or being perpetrated by them)-they just haven't done anything about it. Because it shouldn't matter how many women, femmes, and gender neutral & non- conforming folk speak their truths. Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. Also, to clarify, the emphasis on men in this post is not meant to imply that men cannot be raped or assaulted. Here’s a longer quote I really liked about all this: “Before Weinstein’s alleged sexual misconduct, it was Donald Trump’s. Before Trump, there was Bill Cosby and his half-century of woman accusers. Woody Allen, though determinedly sticking around in Hollywood, has been publicly accused by his own daughter of sexual abuse on a number of occasions. There are just no excuses anymore. We all know that sexual misconduct is a widespread epidemic in our world. So, why are we still asking women and other survivors to rip open their traumas to prove to us there is a problem we already know exists? And when will the problem finally be laid at the feet of those responsible to solve, instead of burdening survivors who have already endured so much?” It is not our responsibility to rip open our wounds and expose our trauma in a solidarity ritual just so you can finally acknowledge there is a problem with men’s violence toward women. We have been screaming into a void for centuries; I’m fairly certain one more round of begging isn’t going to convince you the problem exists if you haven’t already accepted it. For those people who have already used the MeToo hashtag to create some solidarity around their expeirences, or to heal some of their unacknowledged trauma: it is absolutely your right to do that. But just once I would like to see us NOT asking for women, or other oppressed people, to solve a problem that disproportionately affects us. We have already been through enough — we cannot solve your sickness of sexual violence too.” - Matilda Dixon-Smith @matildadixonsmith, “Will We Ever Stop Asking Women And Survivors To Fix Rape Culture?”
Bad, Bill Cosby, and Donald Trump: Wagatwe Sara Wanjuki
 3 hrs
 I won't say "Me, too."
 Partially because most of you know that'
 already.
 But mostly because we shouldn't have to
 "out" ourselves as survivors
 Because men have *always* seen the
 gendered violence happening around them
 (and/or being perpetrated by them)-they just
 haven't done anything about it.
 Because it shouldn't matter how many
 women, femmes, and gender neutral & non-
 conforming folk speak their truths.
Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (people who have been assaulted-harassed) to appeal to the moral sense of their oppressors. Also, to clarify, the emphasis on men in this post is not meant to imply that men cannot be raped or assaulted. Here’s a longer quote I really liked about all this: “Before Weinstein’s alleged sexual misconduct, it was Donald Trump’s. Before Trump, there was Bill Cosby and his half-century of woman accusers. Woody Allen, though determinedly sticking around in Hollywood, has been publicly accused by his own daughter of sexual abuse on a number of occasions. There are just no excuses anymore. We all know that sexual misconduct is a widespread epidemic in our world. So, why are we still asking women and other survivors to rip open their traumas to prove to us there is a problem we already know exists? And when will the problem finally be laid at the feet of those responsible to solve, instead of burdening survivors who have already endured so much?” It is not our responsibility to rip open our wounds and expose our trauma in a solidarity ritual just so you can finally acknowledge there is a problem with men’s violence toward women. We have been screaming into a void for centuries; I’m fairly certain one more round of begging isn’t going to convince you the problem exists if you haven’t already accepted it. For those people who have already used the MeToo hashtag to create some solidarity around their expeirences, or to heal some of their unacknowledged trauma: it is absolutely your right to do that. But just once I would like to see us NOT asking for women, or other oppressed people, to solve a problem that disproportionately affects us. We have already been through enough — we cannot solve your sickness of sexual violence too.” - Matilda Dixon-Smith @matildadixonsmith, “Will We Ever Stop Asking Women And Survivors To Fix Rape Culture?”

Post by @wagatwe. This is not to say that MeToo is a bad thing at all; just that, once again, the burden falls on the oppressed group (peopl...

Memes, 🤖, and Gender: MEN ARE RAPED TOO AND T IS A VERY SERIOUS PROBLEM BUT IF THE ONLY TIME YOU TALK ABOUT MALE SURVIVORS S WHEN YOU ARE INTERRUPTING NOMEN TALKING ABOUT THEIR OWN EXPERIENCES WITH SEXUAL ASSAULT DO NoT PRETEND YOU GIVE A SHIT ABOUT MALE SURVIVORS all credit to @florence_photo . This seemed relevant for this account today; men's struggles with patriarchal, rigid gender norms are freestanding issues that can and will be talked about on this account in their own right, with the full attention that they deserve. I personally have done entire groups of posts about male rape-sexual assault-abuse survivors in the past, only to have conversations derailed because we 'never talk about men' literally two posts later. As well as that, in general conversations about sex and consent I always try to keep the pronouns gender neutral, as I should do, to express the ambiguity that sexual violence brings with regard to those who experience it. Don't derail posts about women by saying 'men get raped too!!!', and don't derail posts about men by saying that women get raped. 'Men are raped' should be its own sentence; most of the time if you're sticking 'too' on the end it's a telltale sign that you're trying to undermine a post with women talking about their own experiences with sexual violence. Male survivors deserve their own conversation without people derailing another. -Iris
Memes, 🤖, and Gender: MEN ARE RAPED
 TOO
 AND
 T IS
 A VERY
 SERIOUS
 PROBLEM
 BUT IF
 THE ONLY
 TIME YOU
 TALK ABOUT
 MALE SURVIVORS
 S WHEN YOU ARE INTERRUPTING
 NOMEN TALKING ABOUT THEIR OWN
 EXPERIENCES WITH SEXUAL ASSAULT
 DO NoT PRETEND YOU GIVE A
 SHIT ABOUT MALE SURVIVORS
all credit to @florence_photo . This seemed relevant for this account today; men's struggles with patriarchal, rigid gender norms are freestanding issues that can and will be talked about on this account in their own right, with the full attention that they deserve. I personally have done entire groups of posts about male rape-sexual assault-abuse survivors in the past, only to have conversations derailed because we 'never talk about men' literally two posts later. As well as that, in general conversations about sex and consent I always try to keep the pronouns gender neutral, as I should do, to express the ambiguity that sexual violence brings with regard to those who experience it. Don't derail posts about women by saying 'men get raped too!!!', and don't derail posts about men by saying that women get raped. 'Men are raped' should be its own sentence; most of the time if you're sticking 'too' on the end it's a telltale sign that you're trying to undermine a post with women talking about their own experiences with sexual violence. Male survivors deserve their own conversation without people derailing another. -Iris

all credit to @florence_photo . This seemed relevant for this account today; men's struggles with patriarchal, rigid gender norms are freest...