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rationalize: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BDSM AND ABUSE ABUSE BDSM COMMUNICATION ABUSE GUILT SETUP DEBRIEF AGREEMENT PLANNING EXCUSES AFTERCARESCENE/PLAY HONEYMOON BDSM Domestic Cycle Domestic Abuse Cycle Communication Both partners still downAbuse A physical or verbal form of violence and talk about what they would both like out is committed against another persor of the scene. They discuss things that are off limits and safety measures that need to be put in place to ensure both people are safe Agreement - Both partners agree to what isGuilt - The abuser becomes worried about on and off limits for the scene play/training scene - This is the time when being caught and the potential consequences partners can take part in the scene they both discussed and agreed upon Scene/Play This is the time when both partners participate in the activities that were excuses and rationalize in any way they can previously discussed and agreed uporn Aftercare - After an intense scene, both partners can be physically, mentally and emotionally drained. Cuddling and relaxing things the victim has always wanted them to within each others arms allows both partners do. This is done to ensure the victim stays in a chance to reconnect as they come down the relationship from the scene. This is a good time to drink water and eat food to replenish any spent energy Excuses - The abuser will shift blame, make to avoid taking responsibility of their actions Honeymoon The abuser becomes the perfect partner, bringing gifts and doing all the Debrief - When both partners are ready, they Planning The abuser starts feeling a loss of can sit down and discuss what they enjoyed control and begins planning ways for them to about the scene, what did not work in the scene and how they can both do to improve upon future scenes together regain control Set-up - The abuser waits for a time when their abuse can be justified BDSM VS ABUSE PLEASE DON'T HIT ME PLEASE SPANK ME What Is BDSM? What Is Abuse? The use of bodily sensations to elicit pleasureA way to cause physical, mental and/or emotional damage or harm to another person A form of consensual power exchange where It takes away another person's power both participants are empowered Before anything happens, each participant Nobody knows when or how it will happen, must negotiate and come to an agreement ad nobody every negotiates or agrees to it happening Creates excitement to see your partner Causes most people to fear and be afraid their partner Destroys any and all forms of trust Creates, relies upon and builds trust Is designed to help fulfill the desires of both Is the cruel and violent treatment of another partners within a safe environment person Opens communication and supports an No communication, and no support environment where both parties can talk freely about their thoughts and emotions Has rules, limits and boundaries that must be Abuse breaks the law! There are no rules, respected at all times. There are even safetylimits or boundaries. It shows no respect measures in place to make sure none aretowards the victim. crossed. I LOVE SERVING YOU PLEASE HELP ME! WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER TO END ABUSE THIS IS WHY PEOPLE WHO ENJOY BDSM WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE WHAT THEY DO IS NOT ABUSIVE WHEN PERFORMED BY RESPONSIBLE CONSENTING ADULTS BDSM IS NOT ABUSE BDSMTRAININGACADEMY.COM Abuse References http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm asleepwithoutdreams: technicolour66: whittyonernc: the-quiet-dominant: Time to reblog this I think So important now, especially since THAT movie will be dropping soon in a theater near you! Not going to stop reblogging stuff like this until that celluloid abomination has been and passed.  This is so important
rationalize: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
 BDSM AND ABUSE
 ABUSE
 BDSM
 COMMUNICATION
 ABUSE
 GUILT
 SETUP
 DEBRIEF
 AGREEMENT
 PLANNING
 EXCUSES
 AFTERCARESCENE/PLAY
 HONEYMOON

 BDSM Domestic Cycle
 Domestic Abuse Cycle
 Communication Both partners still downAbuse A physical or verbal form of violence
 and talk about what they would both like out is committed against another persor
 of the scene. They discuss things that are off
 limits and safety measures that need to be
 put in place to ensure both people are safe
 Agreement - Both partners agree to what isGuilt - The abuser becomes worried about
 on and off limits for the scene
 play/training scene - This is the time when
 being caught and the potential consequences
 partners can take part in the scene they
 both discussed and agreed upon
 Scene/Play This is the time when both
 partners participate in the activities that were excuses and rationalize in any way they can
 previously discussed and agreed uporn
 Aftercare - After an intense scene, both
 partners can be physically, mentally and
 emotionally drained. Cuddling and relaxing things the victim has always wanted them to
 within each others arms allows both partners do. This is done to ensure the victim stays in
 a chance to reconnect as they come down the relationship
 from the scene. This is a good time to drink
 water and eat food to replenish any spent
 energy
 Excuses - The abuser will shift blame, make
 to avoid taking responsibility of their actions
 Honeymoon The abuser becomes the
 perfect partner, bringing gifts and doing all the
 Debrief - When both partners are ready, they Planning The abuser starts feeling a loss of
 can sit down and discuss what they enjoyed control and begins planning ways for them to
 about the scene, what did not work in the
 scene and how they can both do to improve
 upon future scenes together
 regain control
 Set-up - The abuser waits for a time when
 their abuse can be justified

 BDSM VS ABUSE
 PLEASE DON'T HIT ME
 PLEASE SPANK ME
 What Is BDSM?
 What Is Abuse?
 The use of bodily sensations to elicit pleasureA way to cause physical, mental and/or
 emotional damage or harm to another person
 A form of consensual power exchange where It takes away another person's power
 both participants are empowered
 Before anything happens, each participant Nobody knows when or how it will happen,
 must negotiate and come to an agreement ad nobody every negotiates or agrees to it
 happening
 Creates excitement to see your partner Causes most people to fear and be afraid
 their partner
 Destroys any and all forms of trust
 Creates, relies upon and builds trust
 Is designed to help fulfill the desires of both Is the cruel and violent treatment of another
 partners within a safe environment
 person
 Opens communication and supports an No communication, and no support
 environment where both parties can talk
 freely about their thoughts and emotions

 Has rules, limits and boundaries that must be Abuse breaks the law! There are no rules,
 respected at all times. There are even safetylimits or boundaries. It shows no respect
 measures in place to make sure none aretowards the victim.
 crossed.
 I LOVE SERVING YOU
 PLEASE HELP ME!
 WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER
 TO END ABUSE
 THIS IS WHY PEOPLE WHO ENJOY BDSM
 WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE WHAT
 THEY DO IS NOT ABUSIVE
 WHEN PERFORMED BY RESPONSIBLE CONSENTING ADULTS
 BDSM IS NOT ABUSE
 BDSMTRAININGACADEMY.COM
 Abuse References
 http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
asleepwithoutdreams:

technicolour66:

whittyonernc:

the-quiet-dominant:

Time to reblog this I think

So important now, especially since THAT movie will be dropping soon in a theater near you!

Not going to stop reblogging stuff like this until that celluloid abomination has been and passed. 

This is so important

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rationalize: did you know? In Finland, speeding tickets are calculated based on your income - causing some Finnish millionaires to pay fines of over $100,000. PHOTO: SWINGLECOLLINS DIDYOUKNOWBLOG.COM trapqueenkoopa: futureevilscientist: thespectacularspider-girl: lewmzi: prochoice-or-gtfo: alternian-neverland: redbloodedamerica: did-you-kno: In Finland, speeding tickets are calculated based on your income - causing some Finnish millionaires to pay fines of over $100,000. Source This is what “equality” looks like in that liberal fairy tale land of Finland.  They punish you proportionately to how successful you are.  Sounds really “fair.” Except… it is fair? Because it’s proportionate. I don’t get what’s difficult about that. An impoverished person paying $400 dollar fine isn’t the same as a millionaire paying the same amount. For the poor person, $400 dollars could mean starving. Would you really claim it would have the same consequence for a rich man? Would it even be noticeable to him, while the absence of food in their stomach would be glaring to a poorer man? Would it be fair for a man to starve for the same crime as a man that would be having a three course meal? By taking income into account, it allows the impoverished able to still survive while paying any fines they may incur. And, ultimately, while $100,000 dollars would be noticeable to a millionaire, they would still get by. And, assuming the law is properly implemented, they would be paying the same equivalent of their yearly income that a poorer person would. That’s what makes it fair. They would be impacted the same way - but you are looking at the amount rather than the equation. Also, it’s important to make sure that even the rich would pause at the cost of a fine. They need to fear the law just as a poor man does.  Oh no… rich people facing fines that might actually make them consider not doing illegal things because the punishments might actually hurt them… how unfair…-V Finnish person here. Our speeding ticket system owns and only people who bitch about them are people who wanna break the laws - the loudest whiners are the rich people who think they can just pay their way out of trouble and that’s why we have laws like that. 400 dollar ticket. Person making 10 dollars an hour: “Fuck, I better slow down” Millionaire driving a Jaguar: “LOL 400 DOLLARS, FUCK THAT, NYOOM” Compared to a proportional ticket. Person making 10 dollars an hour and must pay 400 dollar ticket: “Fuck, I better slow down.” Millionaire who must pay 100,000 dollar ticket: “Fuck, I better slow down.” Like wtf. Some people have been so brainwashed by capitalism and worship of the rich that they literally can’t tell the difference between fairness and unfairness anymore. It IS fair. The fact that it flies in the status quo so much should make you think about that status quo. I can’t believe they tried to rationalize that it wasn’t fair it’s literally the fairest way to assign a ticket wtf.
rationalize: did you know?
 In Finland, speeding tickets
 are calculated based on your
 income - causing some Finnish
 millionaires to pay fines of
 over $100,000.
 PHOTO: SWINGLECOLLINS
 DIDYOUKNOWBLOG.COM
trapqueenkoopa:
futureevilscientist:

thespectacularspider-girl:

lewmzi:

prochoice-or-gtfo:

alternian-neverland:

redbloodedamerica:

did-you-kno:

In Finland, speeding tickets are calculated based on your income - causing some Finnish millionaires to pay fines of over $100,000.   Source

This is what “equality” looks like in that liberal fairy tale land of Finland.  They punish you proportionately to how successful you are.  Sounds really “fair.”

Except… it is fair? Because it’s proportionate. I don’t get what’s difficult about that. An impoverished person paying $400 dollar fine isn’t the same as a millionaire paying the same amount. For the poor person, $400 dollars could mean starving. Would you really claim it would have the same consequence for a rich man? Would it even be noticeable to him, while the absence of food in their stomach would be glaring to a poorer man? Would it be fair for a man to starve for the same crime as a man that would be having a three course meal?
By taking income into account, it allows the impoverished able to still survive while paying any fines they may incur. And, ultimately, while $100,000 dollars would be noticeable to a millionaire, they would still get by. And, assuming the law is properly implemented, they would be paying the same equivalent of their yearly income that a poorer person would. That’s what makes it fair. They would be impacted the same way - but you are looking at the amount rather than the equation.
Also, it’s important to make sure that even the rich would pause at the cost of a fine. They need to fear the law just as a poor man does. 

Oh no… rich people facing fines that might actually make them consider not doing illegal things because the punishments might actually hurt them… how unfair…-V

Finnish person here. Our speeding ticket system owns and only people who bitch about them are people who wanna break the laws - the loudest whiners are the rich people who think they can just pay their way out of trouble and that’s why we have laws like that.

400 dollar ticket.
Person making 10 dollars an hour: “Fuck, I better slow down”
Millionaire driving a Jaguar: “LOL 400 DOLLARS, FUCK THAT, NYOOM”
Compared to a proportional ticket.
Person making 10 dollars an hour and must pay 400 dollar ticket: “Fuck, I better slow down.”
Millionaire who must pay 100,000 dollar ticket: “Fuck, I better slow down.”

Like wtf. Some people have been so brainwashed by capitalism and worship of the rich that they literally can’t tell the difference between fairness and unfairness anymore.
It IS fair. The fact that it flies in the status quo so much should make you think about that status quo.

I can’t believe they tried to rationalize that it wasn’t fair it’s literally the fairest way to assign a ticket wtf.

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