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Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans. Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this: A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. No thanks. Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers. How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess. He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover. Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case. Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.” If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go. I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been
Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird:

wrangletangle:

stevenrogered:
Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win
Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans.
Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this:
A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. 
No thanks.
Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers.
How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. 
He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess.
He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover.
Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case.
Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.”
If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go.


I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. 
A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been

bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all...

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aquagrunt:

mmilhouse:

as a gamer i refuse to drink anything unless its in my sippy mug

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Doctor, Internet, and Life: LordFarqiplier 582. 6h No, I, and most others refuse. You may seem on the surface as if you're just being edgy, but there is no life in those eyes. I can only hope you are joking, and if not, that you get better. Dont delete this post. Know who you have to talk to in a time of need. This whole comment section is full of people who have been down that road, and I'm sure are willing to talk to you if need be. Get well, my friend, because depression isnt a joke, it is arn illness that shouldn't be overlooked. r/RoastMe u/MufasaOuePasa 5 8 О. http://redd.i...-8h-i Reply11.0k 17 years old russian with crippling depression. Give me a reason to end it all. 156 more replies You look like the guy I know that went to get help and got better. edit: Wow this blew up! I was just trying to bring in some positive thoughts. Thanks everyone, have an awesome day! Reply8.9k Buddy, you stumbled into a pit of some of the most vicious vipers on the internet, and we're all rooting for you. Virtual hug, my brother. Reply 2.9k 6 more replies Uktarget 7h I'm with the others, I am normally pretty brutal but I've been there and the last thing you need is people ripping into you get help see a doctor get someone like a mental health worker to talk to. Reply 2.5k 23 more replies Satailleure 7h Get out of depression, do something meaningful, grow an ego then come back here acting like you're the shit, and rll fuck your mind up. Until then, get better my friend. Depression is a motherfucker. awesomacious: r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression
Doctor, Internet, and Life: LordFarqiplier 582. 6h
 No, I, and most others refuse. You may seem on
 the surface as if you're just being edgy, but there
 is no life in those eyes. I can only hope you are
 joking, and if not, that you get better. Dont delete
 this post. Know who you have to talk to in a time
 of need. This whole comment section is full of
 people who have been down that road, and I'm
 sure are willing to talk to you if need be. Get well,
 my friend, because depression isnt a joke, it is arn
 illness that shouldn't be overlooked.
 r/RoastMe
 u/MufasaOuePasa
 5
 8 О. http://redd.i...-8h-i
 Reply11.0k
 17 years old russian with crippling
 depression. Give me a reason to end it
 all.
 156 more replies
 You look like the guy I know that went to get help
 and got better.
 edit: Wow this blew up! I was just trying to bring in
 some positive thoughts. Thanks everyone, have an
 awesome day!
 Reply8.9k
 Buddy, you stumbled into a pit of some of the most
 vicious vipers on the internet, and we're all rooting
 for you. Virtual hug, my brother.
 Reply 2.9k
 6 more replies
 Uktarget 7h
 I'm with the others, I am normally pretty brutal
 but I've been there and the last thing you need is
 people ripping into you get help see a doctor get
 someone like a mental health worker to talk to.
 Reply
 2.5k
 23 more replies
 Satailleure 7h
 Get out of depression, do something meaningful,
 grow an ego then come back here acting like
 you're the shit, and rll fuck your mind up. Until
 then, get better my friend. Depression is a
 motherfucker.
awesomacious:

r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression

awesomacious: r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression

Doctor, Internet, and Life: LordFarqiplier 582. 6h No, I, and most others refuse. You may seem on the surface as if you're just being edgy, but there is no life in those eyes. I can only hope you are joking, and if not, that you get better. Dont delete this post. Know who you have to talk to in a time of need. This whole comment section is full of people who have been down that road, and I'm sure are willing to talk to you if need be. Get well, my friend, because depression isnt a joke, it is arn illness that shouldn't be overlooked. r/RoastMe u/MufasaOuePasa 5 8 О. http://redd.i...-8h-i Reply11.0k 17 years old russian with crippling depression. Give me a reason to end it all. 156 more replies You look like the guy I know that went to get help and got better. edit: Wow this blew up! I was just trying to bring in some positive thoughts. Thanks everyone, have an awesome day! Reply8.9k Buddy, you stumbled into a pit of some of the most vicious vipers on the internet, and we're all rooting for you. Virtual hug, my brother. Reply 2.9k 6 more replies Uktarget 7h I'm with the others, I am normally pretty brutal but I've been there and the last thing you need is people ripping into you get help see a doctor get someone like a mental health worker to talk to. Reply 2.5k 23 more replies Satailleure 7h Get out of depression, do something meaningful, grow an ego then come back here acting like you're the shit, and rll fuck your mind up. Until then, get better my friend. Depression is a motherfucker. r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression
Doctor, Internet, and Life: LordFarqiplier 582. 6h
 No, I, and most others refuse. You may seem on
 the surface as if you're just being edgy, but there
 is no life in those eyes. I can only hope you are
 joking, and if not, that you get better. Dont delete
 this post. Know who you have to talk to in a time
 of need. This whole comment section is full of
 people who have been down that road, and I'm
 sure are willing to talk to you if need be. Get well,
 my friend, because depression isnt a joke, it is arn
 illness that shouldn't be overlooked.
 r/RoastMe
 u/MufasaOuePasa
 5
 8 О. http://redd.i...-8h-i
 Reply11.0k
 17 years old russian with crippling
 depression. Give me a reason to end it
 all.
 156 more replies
 You look like the guy I know that went to get help
 and got better.
 edit: Wow this blew up! I was just trying to bring in
 some positive thoughts. Thanks everyone, have an
 awesome day!
 Reply8.9k
 Buddy, you stumbled into a pit of some of the most
 vicious vipers on the internet, and we're all rooting
 for you. Virtual hug, my brother.
 Reply 2.9k
 6 more replies
 Uktarget 7h
 I'm with the others, I am normally pretty brutal
 but I've been there and the last thing you need is
 people ripping into you get help see a doctor get
 someone like a mental health worker to talk to.
 Reply
 2.5k
 23 more replies
 Satailleure 7h
 Get out of depression, do something meaningful,
 grow an ego then come back here acting like
 you're the shit, and rll fuck your mind up. Until
 then, get better my friend. Depression is a
 motherfucker.
r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression

r/RoastMe refuse to roast a guy suffering from depression

Children, Girls, and Jail: PLOT @BingPlot Follow #BelieveBlackGirlsBCSD FOUR 12-YEAR-OLD BLACK STUDENTS STRIP-SEARCHED BY BINGHAMTON CITY SCHOOL DISTRICT FACULTY: EAST MIDDLE SCHOOL, JANUARY 15TH, 2019 STUDENT A: Made to remove shirt pants, and 2nd layer of leogings. Searched in bra and underwear. STUDENT B: Made to remove shirt and outer pants. Searched in legoins and bra. STUDENT C: STUDENT D: Searched In clothing. Recelved In-School Suspension for refusing to remove shirt and pants. Made to remove shirt. Searched in bra and pants. "A student may, under current law and policy, be searched in a school building by an administrator [...]. Thése searches involve an administrator requesting a Student to empty their pockets, remove their shoes and/or remove their jackets." - Statement from BCSD, 1/23/19 11:57 AM - 24 Jan 2019 15,815 Retweets 25,336 Likes jaVe. @javeauriel Follow Student D received in-school suspension for not agreeing to remove her shirt and pants. Now think about what that teaches girls about saying "no". PLO @BingPlot #BelieveBlackGirlsBCSD Show this thread 8:36 AM-26 Jan 2019 diekingdomcome: witches-ofcolor: littlelamblillianna: gahdamnpunk: This is truly horrifying These poor girls. If I EVER find out they try to do this to my baby girl there will be HELL to pay. 12 year old girls???? Wtf???? This is disgusting What the actual fuck. Ain’t no damn school policy requires kids of any sex or age to remove pieces of their clothing, shoes and jackets I understand but pieces of actual clothing nah I refuse to believe they made that a policy. Everyone involved needs jail time and needs to be removed from children even their own. Would’ve had to call the police on them right there
Children, Girls, and Jail: PLOT
 @BingPlot
 Follow
 #BelieveBlackGirlsBCSD
 FOUR 12-YEAR-OLD BLACK STUDENTS STRIP-SEARCHED
 BY BINGHAMTON CITY SCHOOL DISTRICT FACULTY:
 EAST MIDDLE SCHOOL, JANUARY 15TH, 2019
 STUDENT A:
 Made to remove shirt
 pants, and 2nd layer
 of leogings. Searched
 in bra and underwear.
 STUDENT B:
 Made to remove shirt and
 outer pants. Searched
 in legoins and bra.
 STUDENT C:
 STUDENT D:
 Searched In clothing.
 Recelved In-School
 Suspension for
 refusing to remove
 shirt and pants.
 Made to remove shirt.
 Searched in bra and
 pants.
 "A student may, under current law and policy, be searched in a
 school building by an administrator [...]. Thése searches
 involve an administrator requesting a Student to empty their
 pockets, remove their shoes and/or remove their jackets."
 - Statement from BCSD, 1/23/19
 11:57 AM - 24 Jan 2019
 15,815 Retweets 25,336 Likes

 jaVe.
 @javeauriel
 Follow
 Student D received in-school suspension for
 not agreeing to remove her shirt and pants.
 Now think about what that teaches girls
 about saying "no".
 PLO @BingPlot
 #BelieveBlackGirlsBCSD
 Show this thread
 8:36 AM-26 Jan 2019
diekingdomcome:
witches-ofcolor:

littlelamblillianna:


gahdamnpunk:
This is truly horrifying

These poor girls. If I EVER find out they try to do this to my baby girl there will be HELL to pay.


12 year old girls???? Wtf???? This is disgusting 


What the actual fuck. Ain’t no damn school policy requires kids of any sex or age to remove pieces of their clothing, shoes and jackets I understand but pieces of actual clothing nah I refuse to believe they made that a policy. Everyone involved needs jail time and needs to be removed from children even their own. Would’ve had to call the police on them right there

diekingdomcome: witches-ofcolor: littlelamblillianna: gahdamnpunk: This is truly horrifying These poor girls. If I EVER find out they tr...

Apparently, Fucking, and Monster: HuffPost BlackVoices @blackvoices Following Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.st/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,2401,340 BabyBoy @CarlosNotWeird FollowV If you think racism isn't a problem then read this story about a cop who was fired for NOT murdering a black man HuffPost BlackVoices@blackvoices Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his firing huffp.St/xGAUMMB RETWEETS LIKES 1,651 2,158 2:55 PM - 11 May 2017 uncleromeo: aphrican-aphrodite: critical-gemini-hero: socialistexan: theboykingofhell: lagonegirl: I hope he wins the lawsuit, a police officer was finally doing the right thing and they penalize him for not being a racist monster! his name is stephen mader and not only did he refuse to shoot, he actively wanted to help the man (ronald ‘rj’ williams) because he could tell that he was only acting out because of mental illness. rj williams was suicidal and holding an unloaded gun and, while mader didn’t shoot him, a fellow officer (ryan kuzma) did and murdered him on the spot. here is the source and here’s to hoping rj williams gets justice “Saying the words ‘Just shoot me’ sent up the red flag that he was just trying to harm himself and no one else … That’s what made me make my decision. He needed help” I hate this fucking world. The guy was actually trying to do his job by actually desculating the situation the right way (desculating these days apparently just means shoot them) and was fired for “failing to eliminate a threat.” HE WON THE LAWSUIT AND GOT $175,000 I read this whole story. It is wild !! The conversations between him and his ex coworkers about what went down that day 😧😶 Listen to it all here: What Happened When A White Cop Decided Not to Shoot a Black Man when I say there are no good cops, this is part of the reason why. “good cops” lose their jobs for doing the right thing. “good cops” die mysteriously after whistleblowing. “good cops” are forced to choose between their livelihood and becoming just like the rest.
Apparently, Fucking, and Monster: HuffPost BlackVoices
 @blackvoices
 Following
 Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black
 man sues city over his firing
 huffp.st/xGAUMMB
 RETWEETS
 LIKES
 1,2401,340

 BabyBoy
 @CarlosNotWeird
 FollowV
 If you think racism isn't a problem then read
 this story about a cop who was fired for NOT
 murdering a black man
 HuffPost BlackVoices@blackvoices
 Ex-cop who refused to shoot young black man sues city over his
 firing huffp.St/xGAUMMB
 RETWEETS
 LIKES
 1,651 2,158
 2:55 PM - 11 May 2017
uncleromeo:

aphrican-aphrodite:


critical-gemini-hero:

socialistexan:

theboykingofhell:

lagonegirl:


I hope he wins the lawsuit, a police officer was finally doing the right thing and they penalize him for not being a racist monster!


his name is stephen mader and not only did he refuse to shoot, he actively wanted to help the man (ronald ‘rj’ williams) because he could tell that he was only acting out because of mental illness. rj williams was suicidal and holding an unloaded gun and, while mader didn’t shoot him, a fellow officer (ryan kuzma) did and murdered him on the spot. here is the source and here’s to hoping rj williams gets justice


“Saying the words ‘Just shoot me’ sent up the red flag that he was just trying to harm himself and no one else … That’s what made me make my decision. He needed help” I hate this fucking world. The guy was actually trying to do his job by actually desculating the situation the right way (desculating these days apparently just means shoot them) and was fired for “failing to eliminate a threat.”

HE WON THE LAWSUIT AND GOT $175,000 


I read this whole story. It is wild !! The conversations between him and his ex coworkers about what went down that day 😧😶
Listen to it all here: 
What Happened When A White Cop Decided Not to Shoot a Black Man


when I say there are no good cops, this is part of the reason why. 
“good cops” lose their jobs for doing the right thing. 
“good cops” die mysteriously after whistleblowing. 
“good cops” are forced to choose between their livelihood and becoming just like the rest.

uncleromeo: aphrican-aphrodite: critical-gemini-hero: socialistexan: theboykingofhell: lagonegirl: I hope he wins the lawsuit, a pol...