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Ass, Be Like, and Bitch: My sister got a new pup and they like to take her sailing So my lil homegirl text me saying "smash this dude keeps trying to get with me so I had to tell him I don't want to sleep with him and he went off." I said "baby why don't you slow-fade these guys don't be so direct lol". Um, nah. HELL nah. She proceeds to send me screenshots of dozens of thirsty texts this dude sent AFTER she had basically ceased communication. By then she got no choice but to ice u, and then SHE gotta be the 'bitch' smh. Now I could see how men might get they lil ego crushed when a girl say "dude I don't wanna bone u." But u wanna know the bigger issue? By the time she had to be blunt with u, she done sent 17 carefully worded ass texts tryina curve u but u so damn optimistic u turnt into Lloyd from Dumb and Dumber: "What do you think the chances are of a guy like you and a girl like me…ending up together?" Mary: "Not good." Lloyd: "You mean, not good like one out of a hundred?" Mary: "I’d say more like one out of a million." Lloyd: "So you’re telling me there’s a chance!" That's u bruh. Her: "ok I could probably maybe meet up for one drink but I gotta get home and wash my hair I have meetings tomorrow!" <- curve. Her: "haha that sounds fun but it's a hectic week for me 😐" <- curve. "Lol nice" <- literally never text me again please πŸ€—πŸ˜‚. Men y'all gotta understand if she like u, she gon let u know. U be like "aye baby u free Wednesday?" It don't matter if she free or not - if she fuck wit u, she gon do the mostest. "I'm actually in Milwaukee that afternoon for meetings but building in 90 minutes for the drive if I speed, I could come by at like 11 and tuck you in? I'll be in work clothes but I can sleep in one of your t shirts πŸ™ƒ" <- Mikey, she likes you πŸ˜ŒπŸ˜‚. If I can leave u with one thing: LISTEN when she try to talk to u. HEAR what she saying not what u WANT to hear and she won't have to drop a bomb on u. Ya get me!! Bless up πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ (πŸ“Έ: Reddit u-mascary)
Ass, Be Like, and Bitch: My sister got a new pup and they like
 to take her sailing
So my lil homegirl text me saying "smash this dude keeps trying to get with me so I had to tell him I don't want to sleep with him and he went off." I said "baby why don't you slow-fade these guys don't be so direct lol". Um, nah. HELL nah. She proceeds to send me screenshots of dozens of thirsty texts this dude sent AFTER she had basically ceased communication. By then she got no choice but to ice u, and then SHE gotta be the 'bitch' smh. Now I could see how men might get they lil ego crushed when a girl say "dude I don't wanna bone u." But u wanna know the bigger issue? By the time she had to be blunt with u, she done sent 17 carefully worded ass texts tryina curve u but u so damn optimistic u turnt into Lloyd from Dumb and Dumber: "What do you think the chances are of a guy like you and a girl like me…ending up together?" Mary: "Not good." Lloyd: "You mean, not good like one out of a hundred?" Mary: "I’d say more like one out of a million." Lloyd: "So you’re telling me there’s a chance!" That's u bruh. Her: "ok I could probably maybe meet up for one drink but I gotta get home and wash my hair I have meetings tomorrow!" <- curve. Her: "haha that sounds fun but it's a hectic week for me 😐" <- curve. "Lol nice" <- literally never text me again please πŸ€—πŸ˜‚. Men y'all gotta understand if she like u, she gon let u know. U be like "aye baby u free Wednesday?" It don't matter if she free or not - if she fuck wit u, she gon do the mostest. "I'm actually in Milwaukee that afternoon for meetings but building in 90 minutes for the drive if I speed, I could come by at like 11 and tuck you in? I'll be in work clothes but I can sleep in one of your t shirts πŸ™ƒ" <- Mikey, she likes you πŸ˜ŒπŸ˜‚. If I can leave u with one thing: LISTEN when she try to talk to u. HEAR what she saying not what u WANT to hear and she won't have to drop a bomb on u. Ya get me!! Bless up πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ (πŸ“Έ: Reddit u-mascary)

So my lil homegirl text me saying "smash this dude keeps trying to get with me so I had to tell him I don't want to sleep with him and he we...

Baseball, Dating, and Future: Dear future wife, it is okay to be strong and independent and be vulnerable at the same time. FB/IG:@Blackcitygirl So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dating yourself and paying your own bills, what men do is none of your business right? Wrong. You see a lot of women have become so independent that when MEN offer to GIVE and DO for them they dismiss their offers, as if all men have an ulterior motive. For instance in the work place, she'll be carrying something heavy and he'll ask "do you need help?" she'll quickly say "no I'm fine" or he'll offer to open the door and she'll say "hey I can open my own doors" what this translates to him is "STAY AWAY FROM ME" whereas in your mind you're just showing how capable you are as a woman. Add to the fact sometimes you're tired and stressed and have on your screw face 😑I'm totally guilty of this btw so a few weeks ago no word of a lie, I decided to do an experiment, every time a guy offered to help I showed him a smile and instead of snapping I said "yeah sure thanks" let me tell you ladies the results have been ASTOUNDING in one month 1. I was carrying like 5 grocery bags on my way home, wearing no make up and a baseball cap and it was raining and a guy asked if I needed help w- my bags, normally I'd roll my eyes and think "he just thirsty" but I accepted and once he'd dropped off my bags he said "I've never done this before" 2. I got into an argument in a cheap hardware store over my headphones and a random guy intervened on my behalf, normally I'd have "given him the side eye" but I smiled and said thank you and he bought me a new pair of headphones 3. After smiling and getting into a convo with an older man one lunchtime, mid way through our convo he asked "what do you wanna eat I'll get you" I was floored!!! None of the guys above asked for my number! Nope there was no cleavage bearing "wink wink" sexually suggestive behavior, this was straight me being a warm and friendly version of myself. As strong and educated as you maybe it pays to be VULNERABLE in the presence of men. You may not need help and that man may not be your future husband but being open to men giving and doing for you starts in your SINGLE SEASON. Blackcitygirl
Baseball, Dating, and Future: Dear future wife, it is okay to be
 strong and independent and be
 vulnerable at the same time.
 FB/IG:@Blackcitygirl
So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dating yourself and paying your own bills, what men do is none of your business right? Wrong. You see a lot of women have become so independent that when MEN offer to GIVE and DO for them they dismiss their offers, as if all men have an ulterior motive. For instance in the work place, she'll be carrying something heavy and he'll ask "do you need help?" she'll quickly say "no I'm fine" or he'll offer to open the door and she'll say "hey I can open my own doors" what this translates to him is "STAY AWAY FROM ME" whereas in your mind you're just showing how capable you are as a woman. Add to the fact sometimes you're tired and stressed and have on your screw face 😑I'm totally guilty of this btw so a few weeks ago no word of a lie, I decided to do an experiment, every time a guy offered to help I showed him a smile and instead of snapping I said "yeah sure thanks" let me tell you ladies the results have been ASTOUNDING in one month 1. I was carrying like 5 grocery bags on my way home, wearing no make up and a baseball cap and it was raining and a guy asked if I needed help w- my bags, normally I'd roll my eyes and think "he just thirsty" but I accepted and once he'd dropped off my bags he said "I've never done this before" 2. I got into an argument in a cheap hardware store over my headphones and a random guy intervened on my behalf, normally I'd have "given him the side eye" but I smiled and said thank you and he bought me a new pair of headphones 3. After smiling and getting into a convo with an older man one lunchtime, mid way through our convo he asked "what do you wanna eat I'll get you" I was floored!!! None of the guys above asked for my number! Nope there was no cleavage bearing "wink wink" sexually suggestive behavior, this was straight me being a warm and friendly version of myself. As strong and educated as you maybe it pays to be VULNERABLE in the presence of men. You may not need help and that man may not be your future husband but being open to men giving and doing for you starts in your SINGLE SEASON. Blackcitygirl

So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dati...

Be Like, Feminism, and Party: lazypacific Imagine you're at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says Come on, one drinkl' You say no thanks. Later, he brings you a soda. 'l know you sald you didn't want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He's just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you're teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your 'no. If you say Really,I appreciate it, but no thanks' and put the drink down and walk away from it, you're the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn't ask for the drink and you don't want the drink and you don't have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated-The Art of "No" (Jennifer P) I was reading this book recently, I completely forgot what it's called but basically this flight attendant was being pursued by a co pilot that she had no interest in. Slowly his interest started getting more and more persistent and in the end, he crashed this plane that she was working on with him because she wouldn't keep seeing him since he was abusive. And it described this scene where someone asked why she said yes to him eventually even after saying she had no interest, and her response was that he just kept asking, and she didn't want to be rude so she said yes. The author then wrote something along the lines of, I wonder what society would be like if women didn't have an endless need and sense of social obligation to placate and be nice to everyone? how would they be now and how would that have helped or hindered their success?
Be Like, Feminism, and Party: lazypacific
 Imagine you're at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says
 Come on, one drinkl' You say no thanks. Later, he brings you a soda. 'l know
 you sald you didn't want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you
 looked thirsty For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He's just
 being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts
 and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you're teaching him
 that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your 'no. If you say
 Really,I appreciate it, but no thanks' and put the drink down and walk away
 from it, you're the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you
 didn't ask for the drink and you don't want the drink and you don't have to drink
 it just to make some guy feel validated-The Art of "No" (Jennifer P)
I was reading this book recently, I completely forgot what it's called but basically this flight attendant was being pursued by a co pilot that she had no interest in. Slowly his interest started getting more and more persistent and in the end, he crashed this plane that she was working on with him because she wouldn't keep seeing him since he was abusive. And it described this scene where someone asked why she said yes to him eventually even after saying she had no interest, and her response was that he just kept asking, and she didn't want to be rude so she said yes. The author then wrote something along the lines of, I wonder what society would be like if women didn't have an endless need and sense of social obligation to placate and be nice to everyone? how would they be now and how would that have helped or hindered their success?

I was reading this book recently, I completely forgot what it's called but basically this flight attendant was being pursued by a co pilot t...