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Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be more serious, and she was trying to uncover what was behind that. She was actually on maternity leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on playgrounds, and what she saw was this really striking difference in how boys and girls are encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So she did a series of studies with little boys and girls on a playground, and she had parents teach their kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a firehouse. And what she found is that boys were much more likely to be encouraged to be independent, while girls were much more likely to be cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys and girls were equally adept at actually using the equipment - the way parents treated them was very different, to the point where even when boys actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole because they couldn't do it without assistance, and they were left on their own So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls physicallv, the research suggests that it also contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the world is a dangerous place. Because the message that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger is that the world is a dangerous place, and that they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as well Another] study had young children who were told to make a world out of these sand toys with their parents. And what they found is, parents were much more likely to praise their sons when they were being assertive or independent, when they were telling their parents where to put a toy or directing the play. But when girls did that, parents were much more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or dissuade what they were saying. So the message that sends is that you don't have control over your experience, oVer your world annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world. So we鈥檙e teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.聽This explains a lot of things. Like鈥 why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don鈥檛 bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns). https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.
Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at
 the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by
 toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be
 injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be
 more serious, and she was trying to uncover what
 was behind that. She was actually on maternity
 leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on
 playgrounds, and what she saw was this really
 striking difference in how boys and girls are
 encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So
 she did a series of studies with little boys and girls
 on a playground, and she had parents teach their
 kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a
 firehouse. And what she found is that boys were
 much more likely to be encouraged to be
 independent, while girls were much more likely to be
 cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though
 boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys
 and girls were equally adept at actually using the
 equipment - the way parents treated them was
 very different, to the point where even when boys
 actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of
 boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole
 because they couldn't do it without assistance, and
 they were left on their own

 So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls
 physicallv, the research suggests that it also
 contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the
 world is a dangerous place. Because the message
 that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very
 cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger
 is that the world is a dangerous place, and that
 they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of
 vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as
 well
 Another] study had young children who were told to
 make a world out of these sand toys with their
 parents. And what they found is, parents were much
 more likely to praise their sons when they were
 being assertive or independent, when they were
 telling their parents where to put a toy or directing
 the play. But when girls did that, parents were much
 more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or
 dissuade what they were saying. So the message
 that sends is that you don't have control over your
 experience, oVer your world
annaknitsspock:
paulatheprokaryote:

lenyberry:


yayfeminism:
Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.
So we鈥檙e teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.聽This explains a lot of things. Like鈥 why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don鈥檛 bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).


https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript


Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.

annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology...

Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be more serious, and she was trying to uncover what was behind that. She was actually on maternity leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on playgrounds, and what she saw was this really striking difference in how boys and girls are encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So she did a series of studies with little boys and girls on a playground, and she had parents teach their kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a firehouse. And what she found is that boys were much more likely to be encouraged to be independent, while girls were much more likely to be cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys and girls were equally adept at actually using the equipment - the way parents treated them was very different, to the point where even when boys actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole because they couldn't do it without assistance, and they were left on their own So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls physicallv, the research suggests that it also contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the world is a dangerous place. Because the message that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger is that the world is a dangerous place, and that they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as well Another] study had young children who were told to make a world out of these sand toys with their parents. And what they found is, parents were much more likely to praise their sons when they were being assertive or independent, when they were telling their parents where to put a toy or directing the play. But when girls did that, parents were much more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or dissuade what they were saying. So the message that sends is that you don't have control over your experience, oVer your world annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world. So we鈥檙e teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.聽This explains a lot of things. Like鈥 why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don鈥檛 bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns). https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.
Children, Feminism, and Fire: There's a researcher in Canada who was looking at
 the injury rates between boys and girls _boys, by
 toddlerhood, are two to four times more likely to be
 injured than girls are, and their injuries tend to be
 more serious, and she was trying to uncover what
 was behind that. She was actually on maternity
 leave with her oldest son and spent a lot of time on
 playgrounds, and what she saw was this really
 striking difference in how boys and girls are
 encouraged, or not encouraged, to deal with risk. So
 she did a series of studies with little boys and girls
 on a playground, and she had parents teach their
 kids to slide down a pole like you'd see at a
 firehouse. And what she found is that boys were
 much more likely to be encouraged to be
 independent, while girls were much more likely to be
 cautioned about safety, about danger. Even though
 boys and girls had the same skill level _- both boys
 and girls were equally adept at actually using the
 equipment - the way parents treated them was
 very different, to the point where even when boys
 actually asked for help, parents said no. A couple of
 boys tumbled to the ground off this fire-station pole
 because they couldn't do it without assistance, and
 they were left on their own

 So while this kind of parenting may help protect girls
 physicallv, the research suggests that it also
 contributes to this feeling of vulnerability, that the
 world is a dangerous place. Because the message
 that sends to girls - encouraging them to be very
 cautious and alwavs highlighting safety and danger
 is that the world is a dangerous place, and that
 they can't cope on their own. And that feeling of
 vulnerability of course is a core belief of anxiety as
 well
 Another] study had young children who were told to
 make a world out of these sand toys with their
 parents. And what they found is, parents were much
 more likely to praise their sons when they were
 being assertive or independent, when they were
 telling their parents where to put a toy or directing
 the play. But when girls did that, parents were much
 more likely to talk over their children, ignore them, or
 dissuade what they were saying. So the message
 that sends is that you don't have control over your
 experience, oVer your world
annaknitsspock:

paulatheprokaryote:

lenyberry:


yayfeminism:
Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.
So we鈥檙e teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.聽This explains a lot of things. Like鈥 why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.And why men don鈥檛 bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).


https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript


Great example of how feminism serves not just women but people of all genders, including men.

annaknitsspock: paulatheprokaryote: lenyberry: yayfeminism: Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?Part biolog...

Be Like, Birthday, and Candy: l started withholding my affection from my first boyfriend after he came out of the gas station with a candy bar for himself and not for me. I was miserable and sad for the remaining 4 years of our relationship because not only was darkseid: rose-owl: dayvushka: catbountry: trilllizard420: bodynegative: Sdghghsldghwhgoghenksdglskjdg WHAT Hardcore grudging. Hey I wrote this post a couple years ago! It was for a discussion about emotional labor and the lie that relationships are hard work. The month before he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers, we completely ignored my birthday because he ranted about how pathetic it is when girls want presents just for aging. I was a Cool Girl so I agreed that my birthday is unimportant. Then the week before he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers, we celebrated his birthday for 7 days straight at his request and at considerable time and financial cost to myself. Then he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers. We obviously didn鈥檛 like each other, but when you鈥檙e 18/19 years old and all you鈥檝e ever heard is that you鈥檙e not supposed to like your partner and relationships take so much work to maintain, then you assume your shitty relationship is healthy. Don鈥檛 be like that. The only hard relationships are with people you don鈥檛 like. Damn girl i always knew there was a story behind this post
Be Like, Birthday, and Candy: l started withholding my affection from my first boyfriend after he came out of
 the gas station with a candy bar for himself and not for me. I was miserable
 and sad for the remaining 4 years of our relationship because not only was
darkseid:

rose-owl:

dayvushka:


catbountry:

trilllizard420:

bodynegative:

Sdghghsldghwhgoghenksdglskjdg


WHAT

Hardcore grudging.

Hey I wrote this post a couple years ago! It was for a discussion about emotional labor and the lie that relationships are hard work. 

The month before he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers, we completely ignored my 
birthday because he ranted about how pathetic it is when girls want 
presents just for aging. I was a Cool Girl so I agreed that my birthday 
is unimportant.

Then the week before he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers, we celebrated his birthday for 7 days straight at his request and at considerable time and financial cost to myself. Then he didn鈥檛 buy me a Snickers.
We obviously didn鈥檛 like each other, but when you鈥檙e 18/19 years old and all you鈥檝e ever heard is that you鈥檙e not supposed to like your partner and relationships take so much work to maintain, then you assume your shitty relationship is healthy. Don鈥檛 be like that. The only hard relationships are with people you don鈥檛 like.


Damn girl

i always knew there was a story behind this post

darkseid: rose-owl: dayvushka: catbountry: trilllizard420: bodynegative: Sdghghsldghwhgoghenksdglskjdg WHAT Hardcore grudging. He...